of My Beliefs
To me, the highest goal for all of us
is survival. It does not matter what color we are, what
gender or what "nationality" we are. We are all
here to work together to increase the chances that the
human species will survive.
The best way to do that, I
believe, is to help each other, not hurt each other. This
is why I am opposed to war and punishment. I do not
believe these are the ways to improve human life on
earth. Nor do I think they are in line with the general
trend of evolution.
I believe the reason people
do things which we commonly refer to as sick and criminal
is generally a result of their unmet emotional needs.
Instead of the concept of
human "rights", I believe it is more accurate
and more helpful to think in terms of individual needs.
See Human Rights vs
I also believe we are here
to solve problems -- problems which interfere with the
survival of the species. The more problems we solve as
adults, the fewer we pass on to children
Here are more of my thoughts
for a new belief system and what I believe is the general trend of evolution.
Some of my beliefs
- They have a very
accurate sense of injustice.
- They are good judges of
- Children are born
empathetic, approval-seeking, forgiving and
cooperative. Rebellious and defiant children,
like terrorists, are created not born. I don't
believe children are born "evil" or
- Each child has a
different set of emotional needs. Children are
more different emotionally than physically.
- They naturally want to
share things with adults, and they will continue
to share things openly till they are punished or
hurt for sharing
- They will naturally
tell the truth unless adults have frightened them
- They need lots of
physical touch and emotional acknowledgment and
validation. Much more than they commonly get.
- They all have a natural
need to feel helpful, as well as the other
natural human emotional needs which I have listed.
Some of my beliefs
- Teens have too little
influence and control over their own lives.
- Adults need to earn the
respect of teenagers. Respect is not the same as fear, and
it is not the same as obedience.
- To earn their respect,
adults must respect the teens' feelings, needs,
beliefs, ideas and dreams. They also must help
fill the teens' individual needs, recognizing
that each teen is different.
- The ideas, beliefs,
dreams and feelings of teens are important and
valuable to society. They can help guide us to a
more humane world.
- Very few people really
take teenagers seriously.
- Teenagers around the
world are being over-socialized to adopt the same
beliefs as the adults in their particular
country, instead of being given exposure to other
beliefs and value systems. This creates divisions
in the world which lead to wars and international
Some of my beliefs about
- Children have a natural
need and desire to learn, to explore, to
experiment, to ask questions and to discover.
- The teacher is there to
meet the child's needs, not the other way around.
- The child's needs,
therefore, are more important than the teacher's.
- The teacher's emotions
affect the student's emotions.
- The student's emotions
affect his ability and desire to learn.
- Many teachers, perhaps
the majority, in traditional schools have
significant unmet needs to feel powerful,
important, respected, appreciated, valued, and in
- These unmet needs
hinder their ability to help their students
develop personally, emotionally and
- The best teachers have
the fewest unmet emotional needs (UEN's). The
worst teachers have the most UEN's.
- Teachers must earn the
respect of their students. They can not demand
- Respect, fear and
obedience are often confused. Respect is earned,
then given voluntarily. Fear and obedience are
- Each child is unique
emotionally; all children are not created equal
when it comes to the emotional brain,
- Each child must be
treated individually, especially with regard to
his or her feelings.
- Individuality should be
a higher goal of education than conformity.
- Emotional invalidation is one of the worst assaults
- Repeated invalidation
is emotional abuse, and it is common in
- Education is ideally
more about learning than teaching. It should not
be about obedience or about creating "good
citizens" of the state.
- The highest goal of
education is facilitating happiness, which comes
from self-motivation, self-direction,
self-discipline, self-confidence, and
- Many schools are out of
balance towards grades, test scores, conformity,
control, obedience, rules, threats and
- One way to reverse this
trend is for parents to support alternative
schools, and to encourage their children to
question authority while focusing on learning.
Also - I believe travel is
one of the best types of education. I encourage all young
people to travel as early in their lives as possible, and
as often as possible.