Some writing on getting away from your parents
Now what else is needed is some guidance on how teenagers can legally get away from their parents.
It seems that the best thing to do is get kicked out of your house. In other words, make your parents so frustrated by their attempts to control you that they have only one way left to control you: to order you to leave. Then you smile and say, "Gladly. I was waiting for you to say that!" lol Actually, I wouldn't recommend this. It would be better to pretend like you are hurt, because they want to hurt you. If you act hurt they will feel some sense of satisfaction. You can say, "Are you sure that is what you really want?" If they say yes, then you are free. If they say no, then you say, okay then we have to work out a compromise, because it is obvious you are very frustrated with me and you don't enjoy me being around here. So then you can start to negotiate on a more equal basis.
The problem is there is an imbalance of power. Parents have way, way, way too much power. So you need to find some way of asserting your own power. You do have power. In nearly all countries now, your parents can not beat the shit out of you. If they do, you can go to the police. So make sure they know that you will do that. But you are probably going to have to get in some kind of a physical confrontation with them before you can become free.
For example, one day when they are bitching at you, you might decided you have heard enough and try to walk away. They might try to walk after you or pull you back. They may try to force their way into your bedroom or in the bathroom if you try to seek refuge there. It is a bit unpredictable what people will do when they feel out of control. So you might as well get used to the idea that you are going to have to be very strong willed. Freedom has never come easily. People have had to die for it so others could be free. Hopefully, none of you reading this will have to die, and neither will I!
So anyhow, you have to start asserting your independence more than you are doing now. You have to start walking out on them when they are talking to you. If you can't walk away, you are certainly not a free person.
You also have to have a plan of where you will go if you need to leave the house/prison. In some countries, there are places to go. Australia, for example, seemed to have a pretty good system as systems created by adults go. But not many teenagers used the places. Most teenagers are too afraid to even walk out the door. They are so accustomed to being abused and controlled they don't realize how bad it is and they just adjust to it, like a young girl somehow adjusts to being sexually assaulted by her father. She learns to create a fantasy world or something. Somehow, she adjusts. She doesn't feel capable of stopping it, so she adjusts. She doesn't believe there is anything she can do, so she doesn't try. Or she might believe it is normal. She might not realize how much it is hurting her. Well, of course she doesn't realize it.
Just like teenagers do not realize how much they are being damaged by their own parents. They simply can't see it. It happens too slowly. But when I walk into a house, or I talk to the teen, I see it very clearly. Teenagers sometimes tell me "Don't be so surprised." But I can't help my instinctive reaction and I don't want to stop being shocked. This is why I have feelings. To help me see what is healthy and not healthy. This is why all of us have feelings. But children and teenagers are taught not to pay attention to them.
Anyhow, when a child is being molested by her father, she needs to believe she can stop it. She needs to have a support network. She needs someone to tell her it is wrong and that she can come to them and they will protect her. So this is what I am trying to do. I am trying to tell teenagers it is wrong for their parents to control them and that I will provide a safe place for them.
But we are back to the legal problem. Here in Ecuador I doubt many parents will call the police and try to get them to force their teenager back home. And I doubt the police would do much about it. It is not a total police state like the USA. But it does sound like it could happen. So this is why you need to get kicked out of your house instead of "running away."
It is much better if you can reach some kind of agreement with your parents/wardens. It is probably easier to do this when you are not in their house. In other words, you call them or write them from somewhere else. Ideally, you would want to be in a different city or different country. As far away as you can, so there is less chance of them coming to find you and physically forcing you back, either by themselves or with the help of someone who has a gun.
Here in Ecuador there are a lot of people with guns so it is not impossible that they could get a private security guard type person to come after you with a gun. And I really don't want someone showing up with a gun.
This is why it is better to get some kind of agreement that you are leaving, or being kicked out, or whatever.
So how do you get yourself kicked out? You stop obeying them. They tell you to come downstairs and you don't do it. They tell you to come home at a certain time and you don't do it. They tell you that you are grounded and you leave anyhow. You simply don't come home from school. You go to someone's house and call them and say, I won't be coming home tonight. But don't tell them where you are. I am sure there are places you could go if you start to think about it.
But depending on where you live, the police might show up and force you back home. So if they do, you simply keep leaving.